As you grow up, I want you to learn that there are people who respect your bodily integrity. This means that we make an effort to understand your boundaries, and because of that we will have a better chance of truly respecting them. I will never force you to, or reward you for looking me in the eyes or hugging me. I will set an example by not hugging people when I don’t feel like it. I hope that this will teach you that when you encounter somebody who doesn’t respect your boundaries, you will be able to understand that there is an option and you can say no to having this person in your life.